TOLERANCE TO NEGATIVE THINKING
SURVIVING YOUR PERSONAL HOUSE OF
Your challenge is to learn how to walk through your personal
house of mirrors and enjoy the trip in the same way I enjoyed
walking through the house of mirrors at the circus when I was a
child. You decide whether or not you will allow your
personal house of mirrors to become a horror show that makes you
If you learn to recognize the distorted
mirrors and call them by their names, the mirrors lose their
power. You will be able to work through your house of
mirrors and enjoy the trip, free from the twisted thinking and
distorted emotions that formerly controlled your mind.
Some mirrors are so distorted that they
deserve to be shattered. Superstitious people believe when
you break a mirror, it brings seven years of bad luck. The
good news is when you break the destructive mirrors associated
with depression, you have good luck for the rest of your life.
Unfortunately, some of the mirrors are
indestructible. They will remain until the day you die.
The only way to deal with their reflections is to ignore them.
Each time a destructive emotion is
reflected in your heart and mind, you must closely examine the
mirror from which it came. God gave you a mind and He
expects you to use it. You have the power to look at all
the mirrors that create your emotions. You need to get up
close and personal with each of those mirrors and see whether
they give an accurate reflection.
Good mirrors give true reflections.
Distorted mirrors give distorted ones and can't be trusted.
When negative and depressing emotions poke up their ugly heads,
it's time to check out the mirrors in your mind.
PUTTING A NAME ON THE MIRRORS OF
Cognitive therapy helps you recognize distorted mirrors.
It's worth putting a name on the mirrors that regularly cause
problems. Once you name them, it's easier to destroy
them, or at least ignore their reflection.
The only mirrors you can trust are those that
are undistorted. They give you a reality check and reflect
the word as it is, and you as you really are. Their
reflection squares with the facts of life.
If you are anxious, fearful, and
depressed, you are standing in front of the wrong mirrors, and
as long as you continue standing there, you will experience
distorted and destructive emotions. So take out your
sledge hammer and have some fun destroying the mirrors that have
been trying to destroy you. It's time for you to strike
back; it's time to strike a blow for freedom.
MIRROR ONE: ALL OR NOTHING
This mirror gives a reflection in black and white.
Healthy people know that there are many gray
areas to life. In fact, most of life consists of gray
areas. In one of the Harry Potter novels, there is a
fictional character named "Serious Black." Such a
foreboding character only exists in novels and fairy tales.
No one is perfect - all white, and no one is totally evil - all
black. The same is true for your experiences.
Nothing is all good or all bad.
This mirror should be easy to recognize
and destroy. All you need to do is to look in it, and if
everything you see is all white or all black, and nothing in
between, you are looking into the mirror of all or nothing
It's impossible to enjoy the challenges
you face when all or nothing thinking is in control. All
or nothing thinking means you are either a total success or
I couldn't perform eye surgery if I let
all or nothing thinking rule my medical practice. This
mirror tells me that my surgical results have to be perfect
one-hundred percent of the time, or I'm a horrible surgeon and
should stop operating. The only surgeon without
complications is one who no longer operates. Dead surgeons
have no complications, but all practicing surgeons experience
them. Complications are part of the life of a surgeon.
No matter what you do in life, all or nothing thinking gives a
false reflection and can't be trusted. It's time to get
out the sledge hammer, and once and for all, smash the mirror of
all or nothing thinking.
I spent several years sailing around the
world on my yacht. A voyage around the world usually
requires a time investment of at least four years, and a
commitment to keep on keeping on in spite of the adversity you
encounter during the voyage. Some people start out on a
voyage around the world, and later decide it requires too much
time and effort to complete the trip. These sailors limit
their cruise to the Caribbean or to crossing the Pacific Ocean.
They have a fantastic voyage that fulfills their dreams as long
as they don't look into the mirror of all or nothing thinking.
The mirror of all or nothing thinking says
a voyage "counts" only if you sail all the way around the world.
If you only sail part way, it doesn't measure up to the all or
nothing standard, and therefore, isn't worthwhile. That is
the kind of foolish assessment all or nothing thinking tries to
foist on its victims.
Every thing you do counts and is
important. Your life isn't measured in black and white.
Go ahead and destroy this mirror so that all or nothing thinking
never again controls your life.
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