TOLERANCE TO NEGATIVE THINKING
ESCAPING FROM PERFECTION
Excellence is a road that takes
you to your dreams unless you stop at a roadblock called
perfection. You must embrace excellence and flee perfection.
Excellence pays rich dividends and is always within your grasp.
Perfection is an unreasonable master who is never satisfied.
The wages of perfection are eternal frustration; no matter what
you do or how hard you work, itís never good enough.
PERFECTION PRETENDS TO BE YOUR FRIEND
Perfection is a master of
disguises and infiltrates every area of your life. Itís a
silver-tongued adversary that pretends to be your friend while
it fills your life with impossible dreams. If you buy what
perfection is selling, you will miss out on the good things of
life. Life can be excellent, but perfection is impossible. The
formula for a miserable life is to expect perfection in
yourself, your friends, your parents, your children, your
spouse, your business associates, your house, your car, your
boat, and your job. Perfection doesnít exist in any of these
If you are hooked on
perfection, you need to have a talk with God. In all recorded
history, the only perfection I know about is God. Hopefully,
after your chat with the Creator of the universe, you will give
up your need for perfection and switch your focus to excellence
Perfection isnít necessary;
itís a luxury you canít afford. You donít have to be perfect
and live without making a mistake for three days in a row to be
worthy of Godís love. You can be poor as a church mouse and
walk around in rags, and God will love you just the same. God
loves and accepts everyone the way they are. No exceptions. If
itís good enough for God, it should be good enough for you.
BUILD YOUR LIFE ON A FOUNDATION OF ACCEPTANCE AND LOVE
You must build your life on a
foundation of acceptance and love rather than on perfection.
God loves and accepts you the way that you are, but He loves you
too much to let you stay that way. The same is true in your
human relationships. You must love and accept people the way
they are, and do whatever you can to help them walk the path of
Expecting perfection in
yourself and others is a dead end street. The house at the end
of the street is called frustration, and if you move in, you
will be miserable for the rest of your life.
PERFECTION SELLS A PERFECT LIFE AND DELIVERS A MISERABLE
Perfection is a clever salesman
that tries to sell you a perfect life rather than an excellent
one. The sales talk sounds compelling, and you soon buy in to
what perfection is selling. Why settle for good when you can go
for the best? Why not go all the way and go for perfection?
Young people search for the
perfect mate. Perfection gives them a long shopping list of all
the qualities that must be present. Perfection never bothers to
mention the fact the perfect spouse doesnít exist. Perfection
tells you to just keep looking. He or she is out there
somewhere. Some people never get married because they wonít
make a commitment until they find the perfect mate.
After you get married,
perfection rears its ugly head and starts telling you all of the
things wrong with your spouse. The list of shortcomings is
small at first, but it gets longer each day. Perfection never
tires in its relentless effort to destroy your happiness. If
you listen to the negative litany, itís only a matter of time
before perfection completes its dastardly plan and ruins your
Perfection sells a perfect life
and delivers a miserable one. When perfection comes in the
front door, the good things of life head for the emergency exit.
PERFECTION STEALS DREAMS
Perfection destroys many
excellent dreams. When I first started reading about sailing, I
encountered articles that discussed the characteristics of the
perfect yacht. These articles were written as if the perfect
yacht really did exist. Maybe they were written by someone
living in a parallel universe, different from our own, in which
perfection was possible. In all of the years I have been
sailing, I never saw the perfect yacht. None of them even came
close. All of them were compromises. Here on planet earth
where I live, there are no perfect yachts. Maybe the authors
were writing about perfect yachts in the Big Yacht Club in the
I have met many people who
wanted to cruise around the world or the Caribbean on a perfect
yacht. After years of searching, these sailors finally realize
the perfect yacht doesnít exist, and so they make a compromise.
They buy an excellent one or maybe just a good one. Then
perfection pays a visit and tells them they can convert their
excellent yacht into a perfect one. It will only take a few
years and a few thousand dollars to make it happen. So, go
ahead. Do it. It will be worth the effort, and you will be
glad you did.
They spend years trying to
convert their good yacht into a perfect one. The years thunder
by and they grow old, entangled in perfectionís web. When they
finally realize perfection is impossible, they are too old and
poor to sail on the ocean of their dreams.
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