TOLERANCE TO NEGATIVE THINKING
NEGATIVITY CREATES POWERFUL DESTRUCTIVE NEUROASSOCIATIONS
Neuroassociations are tiny programs continually running in your
mind. They are automatic processes usually operating below the
level of consciousness, and they contain powerful links
connecting thoughts, images, sounds, sensations, and emotions
with one another and with themselves. Neuroassociations
eventually manifest themselves in the thoughts and emotions that
echo in your mind.
Every day you experience many
neuroassociations, and you probably donít notice they are there
even though they affect every area of your life. Some
neuroassociations link specific sounds to specific emotions.
One person links the sound of the national anthem with the
feeling of pride in his country, and another links the sound of
the national anthem with sadness because a family member was
killed in a war defending his country.
Some neuroassociations link old
memories to specific emotions. The thought of meeting an old
friend evokes joyful memories, and the thought of meeting a
former adversary revives unhappy memories. Some
neuroassociations link specific sensations with specific
emotions. The sensation of cold is linked with pleasant
memories of a ski vacation or uncomfortable memories of
frostbite. When a cold wind blows on your face, the automatic
emotions you feel are created by long forgotten
neuroassociations buried deep within your mind.
Some neuroassociations link
images with emotions. The picture of a sailboat may be linked
to a feeling of terror because you once sailed through a
hurricane, or the same picture might evoke a feeling of deep
satisfaction as you recall a beautiful tropical anchorage.
You have hundreds of
neuroassociations operating in your mind. Each of them is like
a button that links sounds, thoughts, sensations, images, and
emotions. When someone pushes one of those buttons, an emotion
automatically pops into your mind.
Neuroassociations can be
positive, negative, or neutral in how they affect you. They are
unique to you and once installed, they occur automatically even
if they make you uncomfortable, and even if you donít want them
Neuroassociations are part of
your automatic thoughts. You are continually bombarded with
neuroassociations in your stream of consciousness. If your
neuroassociations are negative, they are extremely destructive
because they have free reign and complete access to your
conscious mind; they fill your mind with bad feelings.
Negative neuroassociations are a
form of instant negative thinking. Automatic thoughts and
neuroassociations poke up their heads at the most inopportune
moments. Just when life seems great, an unwanted automatic
thought pops into your mind, and you suddenly end up in mental
The fewer negative
neuroassociations you have, the better off you are; life is
easier and more enjoyable. A single destructive
neuroassociation can instantly send a stampede of negative
thoughts through your mind, and you get trampled in the process.
If your stream of consciousness
is full of negative thoughts, itís likely you have a collection
of toxic neuroassociations at work. Harmful neuroassociations
commonly trigger the following types of thoughts:
NEGATIVITY CREATES INERTIA IN
YOUR PERSONAL LIFE
thoughts create personal inertia; you become stuck where you
are, unable to move in a positive direction.
The paralysis of negative
thinking makes constructive action extremely difficult.
Negative thinking creates the fear of making a mistake. The
possible negative consequences of failure keep you where you
are. After all, things could get worse.
On the other hand, if you do
nothing, failure is virtually guaranteed. Although it may seem
less painful to be stationary rather than possibly moving in the
wrong direction, inertia creates a feeling of self-loathing, and
this leads to more negativity and additional inertia. The way
out of inertia is action; start moving in a positive direction
until the fog lifts and the way becomes clear.
Inertia puts your life on hold as
you wait for a call that never comes. It puts you in a holding
pattern, and the instructions of when and where to land never
arrive. Negativity and inertia lead to three common mistakes:
Waiting too long.
Waiting for perfect conditions.
INERTIA - WAITING
analysis prevents people from acting. They perpetually
reexamine their lives trying to decide what they should do and
where they should go. The inertia of indecision holds them in
place more securely than feet planted in concrete.
When you are captured by inertia,
you wait. Although you may not know what you are waiting for,
delay and waiting are still the order of the day. Waiting for
things to get better or for good things to spontaneously happen
causes you to wait for a lifetime. You can wait for thousands
of things to happen: the reading of the will, the boss to
retire, a positive mental attitude, the depression to lift, to
be appreciated, to be loved, for your ship to come in, or for
your ship to leave.
Waiting is a waste of your most
precious asset, time. Every day is a great day to work on your
dreams. Even if the only thing you do is take baby steps, you
can still do something to work on your dreams. Although the
amount of progress you make may be infinitesimally small, any
movement in the right direction is better than no movement at
all. You need to stop waiting and start doing.
INERTIA - WAITING TOO LONG
long is another common error that leads to lifelong inertia.
Some people wait to have a fantastic retirement. Their life may
not be much right now, but when they retire, they will have a
terrific life. They push the good life into the future until
the day they retire. Although it seems to make sense, it turns
out to be a self-deception, and most people donít figure this
out until retirement comes.
When they retire, they discover
they donít enjoy doing many of the things they put off until
they retired. Windsurfing is an activity thatís best done when
you are full of the enthusiasm of youth. When you are
sixty-five years old, windsurfing seems like too much work.
Youíre afraid you might hurt yourself, and the aches and pains
of a sixty-five year old body steal the wind out of your
windsurfing sails. You can still be a great windsurfer when
youíre retired, but you probably wonít want to work that hard at
Many activities are more fun when
youíre young and healthy. Arthritis and aspirin arenít part of
your daily routine. The younger you are when you perform
physically demanding activities, the higher the probability you
will enjoy them and actually make them happen.
INERTIA - WAITING FOR PERFECT CONDITIONS
conditions to be perfect is another plausible self-deception
that keeps your life on hold. It makes sense to wait until
conditions are right so the probability of success is more in
your favor. If you lived for a thousand years, then perhaps you
could afford to wait a hundred years for conditions to become
perfect before you proceed in the direction of your dreams.
Unfortunately, life is like a flicker that is quickly gone.
Opportunity doesnít linger. You
must be poised and constantly ready for action. The window of
opportunity is small and you must be ready to take advantage of
it when it passes by. If you wait for the perfect opportunity
and perfect conditions, your dreams will never happen.
the only day, and now is the only time you can work on your
dreams. You must seize the day and work on your dreams today.
You must seize the time, and use whatever time is available.
Start moving in the direction of your dreams and live as if you
can make your dreams come true. When you do that every day, the
negative power of inertia no longer holds you captive.
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