TOLERANCE TO NEGATIVE THINKING
MIRROR TEN: PERSONALIZATION
The negative mind often accepts responsibility for things over
which it has no control. This mirror reflects the central
problem afflicting depressed people. They focus on
themselves and on their own feelings. Their inward focus
brings the problems of the world to their doorstep, and they
develop a twisted sense of responsibility for things over which
they have no control.
When you stand
in front of this mirror, ask yourself these questions.
1. Did I cause this problem?
Am I its single sole cause?
2. Am I accepting responsibility for
something over which I have no control?
If you didn't cause the problem, if you
aren't its single sole cause, and if you don't have control over
it, then it doesn't make sense to stand up in front of the
mirror of personalization and beat yourself up with its negative
You are going to make a lot of mistakes
during your short stay on planet earth, and you are responsible
for your own mistakes, but you aren't responsible for those of
others. And when you personalize their mistakes, you
aren't helping them or yourself.
It's perfectly fine to assist family,
friends, and strangers who are in trouble, as long as you don't
personalize their problems. Stand by them through thick
and thin, and help them when you can, but don't blame yourself
for their mistakes.
The problem with this mirror is that it
has a negative reflection. It points its negative finger
of blame at the innocent and makes them feel bad about things
over which they have no control. It attacks your
self-esteem implying you are a bad person because you haven't
solved other people's problems.
Personalization isn't bad as long as it
has a positive focus. As a physician, I have personalized
the problems of other people for more than thirty years.
Their problems become mine. That's why I am a physician;
it's my job to help other people and to personalize their
problems. The difference is that the personalization is
positive and makes both their life and mine better.
When you stand in front of the mirror of
personalization, take a good look at its reflection. If
the reflection is positive, then bask in its warm glow. If
the reflection is negative, take out the hammer of freedom and
smash this mirror.
GO TO NEXT
HOW LONG SHOULD YOU REPEAT POSITIVE
Repeat your positive self-talk until your mind repeats it back
Once it becomes an automatic thoughts, you have embedded a new
way of thinking in your mind. But don't stop there.
You are just getting started.
Pick another affirmation and embed it into
your mind. If you do it again and again, it won't be long
before you become a new person with a new life. There is
no limit to how good your life can become when you
continue to put positive things into your mind. Your life
can literally get better every day.
BUTTERFLIES FOR A POSITIVE LIFE
Perhaps God made butterflies to teach us
lessons about life and make us more tolerant and less
judgmental. We are all a work in progress and although were not
butterflies yet, we can't become butterflies without first being
caterpillars. We've got to eat a lot of leaves and do a lot of
growing before we blossom into our final state. Just as you
can't judge a book by its cover, you can't judge a caterpillar
by its color. The caterpillar might not look like much now, but
when God gets done with it, it will become a creature of
splendor. God is working behind the scenes in your life
taking care of details, and things are going to work out.
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