TOLERANCE TO NEGATIVE THINKING
MIRROR THREE: MENTAL FILTER
Everyone has a unique way of looking at the world. The
problem is the way people look at it sometimes makes things
appear different than they actually are.
An excellent example of this happens to
elderly ladies who have cataracts. When people develop
cataracts, the lens inside the eye takes on a yellowish brown
color as the cataract starts to form. This yellowish
discoloration creates an effect that is similar to wearing
Colors are no longer true, and in this
case, the color deficiency shows up when they apply makeup to
their face. They don't get the color right. They
apply large amounts of rouge to their cheeks until the color
looks normal through their eyes, and the result is that their
cheeks are extremely red in the eyes of the rest of the world.
That's the way a mental filter works.
You think you are seeing the world in the proper way, but the
colors are off. When you paint a picture of your world and
show it to other people, they immediately realize that the
colors are wrong. Your mental filter painted your world in
If you look at the paintings of Vincent Van Gogh, you see his
distorted representations of reality. His broad strokes of
color paint a world very different from the one in which
everyone else lives. He painted the world through his own
unique mental filter, and hence, we have art that reflects his
compromised mental status. His paintings record the
deterioration of his condition as his bizarre mental filter
reflects an increasingly distorted view of the world.
I once worked with a physician who tended to
focus on the dark side of life, and he expressed his pessimistic
view by wearing a lapel pin in the shape of a dark cloud.
Although he didn't have a problem with depression, people with
depression do look on the dark side, and a single negative event
can instantly activate a dark filter that colors everything in
This mirror is difficult to destroy,
because the reflected image looks normal to a person suffering
from depression. If no one told them differently, they
wouldn't have any idea that the mental filter was coloring their
life in an adverse manner.
Destroying this mirror requires help from
other people. With a little help from your friends or from
a therapist, you will be able to detect and eliminate a mental
filter that is coloring your world.
Pick up your sledge hammer and experience the joy of smashing
the mental filters in your mind. This is definitely a
mirror that you can live without.
MIRROR FOUR: DISQUALIFYING THE POSTIVE
This mirror tells you that the positive things in your life
In performance-oriented societies, people keep score. They
have an accountant mentality in which they catalogue and track
how they are doing. If they have lots of things in life,
especially if they have a mountain of money, they are happy.
If they look at their neighbor's pile of stuff, and it's smaller
than their own, they are even happier.
Positive people keep score differently than
folks who are negative. Positive people look for the good,
and they count their blessings. When they add up the
pluses and minuses, they hope the good outweighs the bad, but
they realize the score doesn't matter. What really matters
is whether they have a positive attitude and a heart full of
Negative depressed people use a defective
scorecard that has only one column, and it's used to keep track
of everything wrong in their life. If something good
happens, they have no place for it on their scorecard, and they
quickly forget about it. This mirror has a giant blind
spot, and it just so happens that everything positive falls into
the blind spot. All of the negatives are outside the blind
spot, and so the negative is the only thing they see.
If you want to escape from this
mental mirror, you must take a look at your scorecard. If
it has only one column, it's defective. Your scorecard
should have two columns that record both the positives and
negatives. When you accurately record them both, you
discover many areas where good things are happening. Once
you starting noticing the positives, your mental focus shifts in
a positive direction.
If your scorecard has only one column,
it's time to get out your WMD (weapons of mirror destruction)
and demolish this mirror. Go ahead. Swing your
positive sledgehammer and smash this mirror to smithereens.
You will feel better when you do.
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DREAMS DON'T HAPPEN BY
Here is a list of my dreams that have
happened by themselves:
You'll notice that there's nothing on the list. The reason
is because dreams don't happen by themselves. You must
think and act them into existence.
Here is a list of dreams that I thought and acted into
1. I went to university.
2. I graduated from medical school.
3. I became an eye surgeon specializing in retina and
4. I explored the deserts of Arabia in Land Rover
5. I sailed around the world on my own boat.
Don't just wait for good things to happen. Instead, go out
and make them happen. Think and act them into existence.
THE POSITIVE WEB RING
The Positive Web Ring has eleven positive web
sites. Each site lifts you up, pushes your mind in a positive
direction, and makes it easier to live your dreams. The Positive Web
Ring has something positive for everyone. There's
podcasts, and much more.
The wheel of change always turns in the direction of what you put into
your mind, and the Positive Web Ring fills your mind with good things.
Give your mind a push in a positive direction today. Cruise your way
to a positive life. If you really want to be positive, nobody can
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